Rituals that don’t look like rituals (but they really are)!

You know what no one tells you about rituals?

That most of them don’t look like rituals at all.

It can look like walking a dog when your own world is falling apart.

It can look like crying mid sentence for no clear reason.

It can look like staring out the window so long, you forget what day it is.

It doesn’t always have to be a picture perfect set up in front of an altar, it just needs to be what works for you in that moment!

I’ve looked after animals in some of my darkest moments & you don’t get to skip the walk just because you feel like shit.

They’ll bark. Nudge. Stare. Whine.

They make you go outside.

And even though it could be a 5 min sniff walk before work, something in your nervous system shifts out there. 

You return home feeling different.

That’s a ritual.

No altar required.

There have been moments this year where I’ve found myself in a kind of trance. 

One example is that I was so focused on a butterfly & the sound of the wind that day, that I forgot what I was even sad about.

That too, is ritual.

Not planned. Not social media worthy.

Just being present in that moment of time!

Then there’s crying, those strange, random sob fests that sneak up without warning.

Not even attached to a thought.

Just raw emotional release, the kind that stops you mid scroll and says, “Put the phone down. It’s time to feel.”

That’s also ritual.

I’ve rolled my eyes at rituals, even my own.

I’ve lit the sage, laid out the crystals & halfway through thought, “What the fuck are you doing? This feels off!”

So I’ve packed it all up. 

Sat with my cacao in hand, read a book or closed my eyes, felt into my body & the natural noises around me & that became the ritual.

Because if I’ve learnt anything, it’s this:

If it’s not authentic, your body will call bullshit.

We’ve been trained by the spiritual content online to think ritual means 1000 candles, kneeling at an altar, burning stuff, sacrificing something to receive a reward (which are all very valid & what I do on occasion..)

But ritual can also be messy, intimate, rose petals in bathtubs & sometimes they can be boring as hell!! 

True ritual, will never ask you to pretend, however you decide to proceed. 

One of the most powerful rituals I do every day?

Opening my eyes and whispering,

“Thank you. I’m still here.”

That’s it.

I don’t journal in the traditional sense. 

I speak. I move. I feel.

I follow what’s true for me.

And I want to remind you of this:

👉 You get to define what sacred looks like in your life.

👉 You don’t have to recreate someone else’s version of that.

👉 You don’t need special tools or six hours of free time.

Your intuition is the ritual.

Your awareness is the ceremony.

Your grief, your joy, your body’s instinct to sit down and breathe, all of that is already sacred.

You don’t have to do ritual.

You just have to witness it.

So stop waiting for permission to trust yourself & go create your own ritual - right now!

Well go on.. you’ve got this! 

Trina 😊