Shit you won’t find in a Self Help Book!

Sometimes when you speak your truth, everything falls apart. The friendship. The romance. The illusion. The fragile scaffolding of who you were trying to be, just to keep the peace. This isn’t the pretty part of healing. It’s not poetic. It’s raw, messy & often devastating. Because truth isn’t always soft. Sometimes truth is the earthquake that reveals the fault lines. Sometimes it’s the final straw that breaks a connection wide open. Sometimes… it’s the most liberating thing you will ever do, even if it costs you. I say this, because I’ve spoken my truth and lost people along the way.  A friend once asked me for honesty, in fact she begged me to not hold back. So I gave it to her. Gently & thoughtfully. She thanked me for being a ‘true friend’ & we kept talking for a few weeks after … Then boom. Unfriended. Gone. No explanation. But it wasn’t just me, both my kids got it too! Another time was with my ex. He said something super cruel while we were away with his parents...

Healing won’t make you a sacred being, but it might make you honest. They sold us a story. Wrapped it in self help slogans, sage smoke & Instagram worthy affirmations. They said if we just did  enough  healing work; trauma recovery, shadow work, nervous system regulation, inner child journaling, ancestral clearing, all of it - we’d be healed. Enlightened. Peaceful. Fixed. But.. this is the truth no one wants to print on a T-shirt: Healing won’t make you healed. It won’t turn you into a constantly calm, high vibing goddess. It won’t give you a drama free life or erase your anxiety. It won’t make you immune to heartbreak, grief, fear, or those midnight spirals we all try to out meditate. What healing  can  do, if you let it, is make you honest. Hear me out!! Honest enough to stop gaslighting yourself. Honest enough to admit when you’re lonely, even surrounded by people. Honest enough to confess you’re still angry at the people who hurt you. Honest enough to stop pe...