Healing won’t make you a sacred being, but it might make you honest.

Healing won’t make you a sacred being, but it might make you honest.

They sold us a story.

Wrapped it in self help slogans, sage smoke & Instagram worthy affirmations.

They said if we just did enough healing work; trauma recovery, shadow work, nervous system regulation, inner child journaling, ancestral clearing, all of it - we’d be healed.

Enlightened.

Peaceful.

Fixed.

But.. this is the truth no one wants to print on a T-shirt:

Healing won’t make you healed.

It won’t turn you into a constantly calm, high vibing goddess.

It won’t give you a drama free life or erase your anxiety.

It won’t make you immune to heartbreak, grief, fear, or those midnight spirals we all try to out meditate.

What healing can do, if you let it, is make you honest.

Hear me out!!

Honest enough to stop gaslighting yourself.

Honest enough to admit when you’re lonely, even surrounded by people.

Honest enough to confess you’re still angry at the people who hurt you.

Honest enough to stop performing your healing — and actually start living it.

Because real healing isn’t a highlight reel.

It’s a reckoning.

It’s the quiet decision to show up for yourself, over and over, especially when it’s inconvenient or ugly or unvalidated.

It’s crying sitting in your car in the Woolies parking lot.

It’s skipping the spiritual to do list and just sitting in silence.. heart racing, stomach clenching, eyes wide open to the truth you’ve tried to avoid.

This is what soul work actually looks like.

It’s messy. Raw. Sometimes boring. Often lonely.

But always, always potent.

We live in a world obsessed with healing journeys that look good on social media.

Full of curated altars, tidy mantras & 5-step breakthroughs.

But the truth I’ve learnt is?

Shadow work (healing) is sacred because it’s human.

It’s not meant to make you pure.

It’s meant to make you present.

Because the gift isn’t perfection, it’s honesty.

The gift is standing in the mirror, no mask, no filter & saying:

“This is me. All of me. Still here. Still showing up.”

That’s where the soul returns.

Not in the polished version of you, but in the undone, belly deep, eyes wide version who knows who the fuck they are, even when no one else claps for them.

This is the shadow work people don’t like to talk about!

Let’s me say this:

• Inner child healing won’t make your childhood vanish.

• Nervous system work doesn’t mean you’ll never be activated (triggered) again.

• Spiritual healing doesn’t mean you’ll never yell, shut down, or ghost someone you love.

But it does mean you’ll stop lying to yourself.

It does mean you’ll stop chasing perfection.

It does mean you’ll remember how to belong to yourself again.

Healing won’t make you sacred.

But it might make you honest & in a world full of spiritual performance and personal branding, that honesty? Well… it’s a fucking revolution.

🔥 Try this ritual for the honest heart

A small shadow work practice you can do right now:

• Light a candle.

• Sit quietly with your journal or speak it into being

• Ask yourself:

Where am I still pretending to be ok?

What truth have I been swallowing to stay safe?

What would shift if I let this truth live outside my body?

Notice the first thing that comes to mind.

Don’t edit it.

Let your honesty spill. 

Let it sting. 

Let it set you free.

Are you ready for the real work? 🔥 

If this post cracked something open…

If your soul whispered “finally” while reading…

Then maybe it’s time.

Time to stop window shopping in the spiritual realms.

Time to stop healing alone.

Time to go deeper: not into the bullshit, but into the truth.

If you’re feeling called to work together, whether it’s 1:1 or group Sacred Stillness space.. I’m here.

Not to fix you.

But to walk beside you while you enter your own remembering.

🖤

Trina