Shit you won’t find in a Self Help Book!

If I hear “good vibes only” one more time, I might actually throw a crystal at someone & don’t get me started on “everything happens for a reason.”   These little slogans float around like spiritual fast food: easy to consume, zero nourishment and no one stops to think about what they’re actually serving. For me, these phrases aren’t harmless.  They can shut down real conversations, silence someone’s pain and push us into bypassing what’s actually happening.  While they might feel comforting to the person saying them, they often leave the other person feeling more isolated than before.  So let’s strip them back, call them out and talk about what I really feel is going on underneath. 1. Love and Light Awww.. On the surface, “love and light” sounds sweet, doesn’t it? Like a spiritual Hallmark card.  But when you’re in the thick of trauma, burnout, or overwhelm, what does “sending love and light” actually do for you?  Nothing.  It’s the equivalent of ...

Healing won’t make you a sacred being, but it might make you honest. They sold us a story. Wrapped it in self help slogans, sage smoke & Instagram worthy affirmations. They said if we just did  enough  healing work; trauma recovery, shadow work, nervous system regulation, inner child journaling, ancestral clearing, all of it - we’d be healed. Enlightened. Peaceful. Fixed. But.. this is the truth no one wants to print on a T-shirt: Healing won’t make you healed. It won’t turn you into a constantly calm, high vibing goddess. It won’t give you a drama free life or erase your anxiety. It won’t make you immune to heartbreak, grief, fear, or those midnight spirals we all try to out meditate. What healing  can  do, if you let it, is make you honest. Hear me out!! Honest enough to stop gaslighting yourself. Honest enough to admit when you’re lonely, even surrounded by people. Honest enough to confess you’re still angry at the people who hurt you. Honest enough to stop pe...